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it was yesterday evening when jen and I sat together in bed and just talked about how it is now beeing here away from parents relatives, friends and everything we know and we realized the first time I guess that we miss so people! Jen told me about these phases when you move somewhere else. the first phase is the honeymoon phase, because everything feels just like it should be when you have this great love just with a new place. well I think it's too early yet to say we left this time behind but still yesterday evening both of us had the feeling that we miss something. I guess it's quite normal and I imagine it quite awkward if after 2 month being in denmark we wouldn't miss a thing!
Hello! Good to see a new face on the blogging world about DK!
ReplyDeleteWell, you know where to come when it gets too rough. We must do dinner/blackberry picking again soon. Life is settling down again after our trip!
ReplyDeleteHey Paula! Thanks, just found your blog as well!
ReplyDeleteHey Jennie! That sounds good, we've been feeling a little down lately, missing the family and so on... And I hope there are still some blackberries left, don't know how long the season is!?
I'm sorry, but Jen is just TOO good looking.
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Re: missing family and friends, it takes about two years and then you will be numb to it.
It does take time though, but you can't exactly care less, until you get used to missing them (and the 'getting used to' is a kind of numbing) it will be painful.
Try not to let it take grip if you can, because then you will have to leave sooner than you thought you would.
Out of the droves of expats we've known here, full families too, the ones who beat the fastest track outa here seemed to be the ones who were missing their friends and family the most and spending the most time and money on the phone/flying backwards and forwards. It's about a balance.
Having said that it can also be a sign. Homesickness can be really intense, and sometimes we have to listen to it. Other times it could be a way of hiding from new possibilities.
My advice is to give yourself a certain amount of minutes to wallow in it and then change the subject and get up and do something fresh and distracting. If you get too deep in it, one thing leads to another.
*shrugs*
well,
ReplyDeletethanks babs for your long comment! you are right, jen looks very good on that picture.
I think with us it's the abovalence of closeness and being apart with our parents that is strange. when we lived in vienna we usually saw them twice a week! which is way too much. now we didn't see them for a while but till that moment we didn't miss them. so we thought it's a sign that stress is flowing away and we had time to think about it.
well, let's see what the future brings, I am defiantly not the type who fly home a lot cos we don't fly and I also do not call my relatives a lot so does that mean something?
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